On this blog, Karen Tomasi relates her journey becoming an Accredited Holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach and presents her experience of being a divorce coach.
Healing from a painful breakup
After my husband left me for another woman, I was left feeling completely lost and overwhelmed. It was a massive shock.
I constantly felt angry. I hated my ex for leaving me and the kids. My ex had met a woman 10 years younger. It was the typical story of a guy going through a mid-life crisis who wanted to feel young again. He wanted someone younger and prettier. He had found himself a trophy wife.
I had given him the best 20 years of my life. Being a wife and mum was everything to me. The pain was excruciating. It felt like my world had just collapsed.
Instead of living a good life together, after all the ups and downs we had been through, I was repaid by him leaving me.
I kept asking myself what had happened. I could not move past it.
Eventually, I got fed up always being angry and frustrated. I decided it was time to pull myself together. I had two kids who needed me.
I wanted so badly to feel good, again, but I had no clue where to start.
Over the years, I had always been interested in self-development, so I decided to find myself a coach who could give me sound and objective advice. It was someone who could provide me with a lot of practical tools and strategies. He helped me to let go of all the stuff that I had been holding inside of me and that was preventing me from moving forwards.
Life has gone full circle and, today, I have become an Holistic Breakup and Divorce coach with a great passion to help others to release their own pain.
Maybe you are feeling stuck and would like guidance on how to move forwards.
It’s important to know that, at the beginning of a breakup, it’s completely normal to feel lost, to have no clarity, to be overwhelmed and to even feel like you have been hit by a freight train.
In order to become unstuck, it is crucial to confront all of your negative feelings in order to be able to move forwards.
By doing so, you will not only feel lighter but you can begin to heal and to start to create a new life that reflects who you truly are.
Become unstuck from a painful breakup
A client came to me for help to move her forwards. It was 4 years since the breakup with her husband. Even though it had been a long time she was still stuck.
Every day she played the same negative words over and over in her mind.
The client told me that she had breast cancer and was due to undergo yet another operation. The doctors had confirmed to her the cancer was caused by stress….
This revelation made me want to help her even more. I explained to her that in order to move forwards, it would be necessary to shift her mindset. She needed to start looking forwards and to stop looking backwards. The deep emotions trapped within her had to be faced head on, processed and let go before she could begin to heal and to create a new life of her choice.
The client knew that she would struggle to do this but her need to move on was far greater than staying stuck. That was no longer an option for her.
After working together for a few months, the client had let go of many of the feelings she had been suppressing. There was a huge shift in her thinking and behaviour. She was smiling again and her energy had completely lifted. She started to imagine what she could do with her life. It was no longer too scary to look forwards.
The tools and strategies that I provided her with were so powerful that the client started to use them with her school students. They helped her to understand the kids more and to help them to deal better with their emotions.
So, if you want to stop feeling so sad and frustrated every day and would like some guidance on how to get your life back on track, I invite you to contact me for a free discovery call. Let’s see if we would be a good fit to work together.
Karen Tomasi, Accredited Holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach
I support women and men going through break up or divorce who feel stuck or overwhelmed and not able to move forwards. I help them to gain clarity, take back control and to dial down their negative emotions by providing them with tried and tested practical strategies and techniques.
With a combination of empathy and objectivity, I guide them through a process of healing, to become empowered and to create a future they are excited to live.
- Struggling to cope with the breakup of your relationship
- Healing Emotional Abuse after an abusive relationship
- Managing Conflict
- Overcoming Heartbreak & Betrayal
- Rediscover your Self Confidence & Self Esteem
- Mindfulness & Meditation
- Effective co-parenting
- Creating a new and empowered life
Introduction Child maintenance is a crucial aspect of ensuring that children's financial needs are met after the separation or divorce of their parents. While child maintenance plays a vital role in providing for the well-being of children, it's essential to...
Introduction Co-parenting with the assistance of family mediation has become a vital approach in recent years, particularly for separated or divorced couples. This comprehensive guide will explore the concept of co-parenting, provide insights on how to co-parent...
In the realm of family mediation, confidentiality is not just a legal requirement, but a fundamental pillar upon which the process stands. It guarantees participants the freedom to speak openly, explore solutions, and work towards resolving their disputes in a secure...